Blissfully alone

Loneliness, loneliness, loneliness. I hate loneliness. It takes such a toll on me. Why am I so afraid of being alone? Maybe its coz I’m always around great company? Or maybe I just can’t stand to be by myself? Then isn’t that a problem, shouldn’t I be happy to be with myself before anyone else is happy to be with me? I guess I’ve just never learned to be by myself. This is a pandemic I’ve noticed with many of my peers. It’s a rare thing to meet someone my age sitting in a restaurant alone without any form of gadget or technological interruption.  Even at home, they are never in solitude, there’s always the TV or radio or phone or just something that destructs them with the vain idea of “company”.

Maybe this could be one of the reasons why so many people are social misfits and addicts? Maybe this is why so many relationships end up in chaos? Maybe it’s because so many people are too focused on not being alone that they forget to develop themselves…

I think it’s time for us to be lonely, time for us to shut down our phones, TVs,  radio and yes even real friends. Time for us to be comfortable with ourselves, know who we are, enjoy our own company before we can allow someone else the luxury of having to put up with someone we ourselves don’t want to put up with (me). It’s time for us to stand up and be alone with ourselves, seek the company we long for from within us then we can go ahead and share our blissful company with other people who know what it means to be alone with themselves….

So today I want to make a proposition, a proposition that will go ahead and reveal to you who you really are, what you’ve been hiding from yourself and why you’ve never liked to spend time with yourself. Let’s dig in deeper and get to know ourselves before things get serious (let’s take things slow). Purpose to have a date session with yourself for at least ten minutes daily. Be sure to block out all distractions and just spend some quite time with yourself.  Fall in love with yourself, go for long walks, spend a quiet night at home, and talk to yourself regularly. And soon you’ll begin to discover that you’re the best company you ever had…